OK. So you've identified that the problem is much larger than the question of "Who Does the Dishes" and that we should strive for a biblically ordered household. In the meantime, dishes pile up in the sink. Husbands either follow the advice of the white knights and concede to their wives' demands, or they prefer to focus on more manly duties, while the wives fester a resentment against all things patriarchy. So if "Who Does the Dishes?" is the wrong question to ask, maybe the better question is, "What are the practical steps necessary to take us from where we are now to the ideal goal of a biblically ordered household? And how does a man desiring such an outcome faithfully and effectively lead his family in that direction?"
OK. So you've identified that the problem is much larger than the question of "Who Does the Dishes" and that we should strive for a biblically ordered household. In the meantime, dishes pile up in the sink. Husbands either follow the advice of the white knights and concede to their wives' demands, or they prefer to focus on more manly duties, while the wives fester a resentment against all things patriarchy. So if "Who Does the Dishes?" is the wrong question to ask, maybe the better question is, "What are the practical steps necessary to take us from where we are now to the ideal goal of a biblically ordered household? And how does a man desiring such an outcome faithfully and effectively lead his family in that direction?"